Dying – the second birth



I believe like Zoroastrians that death is our second birth, something to be celebrated. Our soul and consciousness continue to live somehow without a brain. NDE and Reincarnation testimonials suggest that. I wrote a page about this issue in http://www.kinberg.net/wordpress/stellan/nde-afterlife/
I do not want to die but I am looking forward to this event even if it may mean some painful intermediate consciousness state like coma, locked in state (see Nader’s lecture in my article about these consciousness states) or bad pain. But Jesus is an example for me like it was to all martyrs during the Roman Empire. The pain will end sooner or later and will be easier to deal with if one knows what comes thereafter.

The more people engage and understand death and know where it’s heading … the better prepared the person is to be able to let go to the process and the better prepared the family is to reconcile with it, for a more peaceful death.” ( www.smh.com.au )



Death definition

“In Australia, the moment of death is defined as when either of these first cease irreversibly:

  • either blood circulation
    (e.g. after a heart attack)
    “But if it’s a sudden cardiac arrest, the brain could go on a bit longer. It can take a minute or two minutes for brain cells to die when they have no blood flow.” After this time the brain “switches off of various processes.”
  • or brain function
    (e.g. after a massive stroke)
    (read more in www.smh.com.au )

I saw many years ago at an event, a man falling and shortly getting cyanotic. A doctor came and took over. That man probably had a heart attack. I do not know if that man was saved as a lot of people surrounded the rescuing area and I had to leave, Many years later I helped a young boy from Africa who was found at the bottom of a lake. After about 15 minutes of CPR by me and a colleague, rescue personnel came and took over. The boy survived but got severe brain damages for a long time in 180 Celsius water.


 key physical processes

“There are key physical processes that are commonly experienced by many people as they die – whether from “old age”, or indeed from cancer” ( Source:  www.smh.com.au ) I understand from the article that these are:

  • refractory symptoms like
    • “breathlessness,
    • severe appetite and weight loss,
    • fluid retention,
    • fatigue,
    • drowsiness,
    • delirium,
    • jaundice
    • and nausea,
    • and an overall drop in physical function.”
      (read more in www.smh.com.au )

Refractory symptoms “cannot be adequately controlled despite aggressive efforts to identify a tolerable therapy that does not compromise consciousness (Cherny 1994)” ( Read more in palliative.stanford.edu.)
These refractory symptoms are due to “ a drop in energy levels caused by a deterioration in the body’s brain function and metabolic processes” (read more in www.smh.com.au )

Final days

various reflexes and functions will also slow.

  • A dying person will become progressively more fatigued,
  • their sleep-wake patterns more random,
  • their coughing and swallowing reflexes slower.
  • They will start to respond less to verbal commands and gentle touch.
  • Reduced blood flow to the brain or chemical imbalances can also cause a dying person to become
    • disoriented,
    • confused
    • or detached from reality and time.
    • Visions or hallucinations often come into play.
      • hallucinations or dreams where they see loved ones

( Read more in www.smh.com.au )

Final hours

  •  a person’s breathing to change, sometimes slowing, other times speeding up or becoming noisy and shallow.
    The changes are triggered by a reduction in blood flow,
  • a gurgle-like “death rattle”. “It’s really some secretions sitting in the back of the throat
  • An irregular breathing pattern
  • restlessness right at the end of life,” Professor Boughey says. “It’s just the natural physiology,
    the brain is trying to keep functioning.”
  • Circulation changes skin can become mottled or pale grey-blue 
  • slips into complete unconsciousness.
  • hearing is the last sense to fade
    Many people will be unconscious, not able to be roused.
    So people are urged to keep talking calmly and reassuringly to a dying person.
    ( Read more in www.smh.com.au )


How to care about a dying person

hearing is the last sense to fade
Many people will be unconscious, not able to be roused.
So people are urged to keep talking calmly and reassuringly to a dying person.
( Read more in www.smh.com.au )

things that can comfort a dying person are

  • playing their favorite music,
  • sharing memories,
  • moistening their mouth if it becomes dry,
  • covering them with light blankets if they get cold or damp cloths if they feel hot,
  • keeping the room air fresh,
  • repositioning pillows if they get uncomfortable
  • and gently massaging them.
    ( Read more in www.smh.com.au )



I don’t feel death like the end of everything. When I loose a friend or relative I do not feel the loss as after death I feel my dead friends and relatives, nearer to me than ever. 
I am curious about my own death and I think that it helps me to know what happens before I leave. I do not want any drugs as I do not want to loose NDE’s.

After reading Guidalberto Bormolini in Franco Battiato’s book “Attraversando il Bardo” I have changed my mind about the speed of death. I think that a slower death could be good for us to prepare for death by e.g. saying goodbye to our beloved relatives and friends.

My mother had a slower death but she had severe anxiety, probably reminding the death anxiety she had in Nurnberg when the allied bombed the city and she and her friends seeked safety in the cellar of the opera. I were able to  talk with her during  her last seconds.  I said to her to send my greetings to his brother and sister. She answered yes by nodding slowly her head. That was her last sign of life.




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