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He will wipe every tear from their eyes

I saw again the film Don’t Ever Wipe Tears Without Gloves”, a story about love, in this case about the love of Benjamin and Rasmus, two boys who loved each other. 

One of them, Rasmus, died in Aids in the early 1980s when AIDS came to Stockholm. 

Benjamin was a brave Witness of Jehovah who knew the Bible very well.  But Benjamin loved Rasmus and decided to leave the Jehovah witness. Despite that, he remained a good Christian. He never committed adultery and betrayed Rasmus, something that Rasmus did going to bed with other men.
Benjamin was therefore lucky and never got infected.
He survived the painful death of his boyfriend. Benjamin helped taking care of Rasmus at the hospital, despite the risks of infection.

Benjamin, declaring himself as homosexual, was however excluded from his family who was J. Witnesses. Benjamin suffered heavily being abandoned by his family.

Benjamin was not even allowed to attend Rasmus’s funeral as Rasmus’s parents were afraid of bad talks in their home village north of Stockholm.

Benjamin told about his story, 20 years later, and about his story is this film based. The film that is really a film about true love, is available at IMBd.

Benjamin’s favorite Bible verse was Revelation 21:4:

4‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. 
There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, 
for the old order of things has passed away.”

Benjamin comforted his friend Rasmus with this verse before he died at the hospital.

God/Allah/יהוה is a forgiving God that understands humans’ need for true love. And Jesus said “Love you enemies and forgive 7×77 times.

(from the Quran Al-Fatihah 1:1
in English: In the name of Allah, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful

Some scientific facts to consider

  • We are all developed in the womb as physically female embryos with e.g. clitoris instead of a developed penis. Only later female embryos become male embryos. Some males can develop differently getting in love with the same-sex humans.
  • You can not decide whom you get in love with, as it depends on your brain’s functions.
  • Homosexuality does not depend on previous traumatic experiences and can be cured as some religious (JW) say.

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S Lucia

There are several nice traditions in Sweden. Today is the only day that all Swedes dedicate to a Italian saint, the Saint Lucia of Siracuse. In my school like all others, the school day starts with a Lucia walk and singing. I take the opportunity to share this for you. A Lucia event sent from a church in beautiful Gränna. Click on this link to see it.

. Have a good day. Greeting from a windy Aeolian island. I wish a nice Lucia day to all my Swedish friends.

Leaving Sweden

I m leaving Sweden next Wednesday. Tht has been a dream all my life that is soon to become true.  The dream to go to Lipari to live there the rest of my life as my mother did.
Looking out the window from my kitchen here in Älghult I have double feelings, some kind of melancoly. I liked the plan to be here in Sweden and visit my son and daughter when it is to  hot in Italy.  But I can not afford that with the money I get as retired.

In the same time, being here in SwedenMay to September, I can not enjoy the summer season with all the fruits, the olives the garden offers this time and I orked with during the winter and spring.. And the trees often need water during those hot summer months.

My mother ( came to live on Lipari about 1977 when she was 50+. She was a courage woman to come to live on a island. But she did it together with her fiancé.  Now I do the same.  She died on the island 98.  It would be terrific if she would Migration reappear there.  

If I do met her again, I want her to be happy with the way I took care of her gift, the house and the garden. My mother  has become a important reason I want to be back on Lipari.

I had periods of melancoly and being nervous these last Swedish days.  It is a period of 46 Swedish Years that have come to an end.

My last days were spent getting my two luggages packed and greetings all good friends in the village. I were invited to a few nice dinners at my lovely Syrian friends from Aleppo. I went to Mass yestereday with my friend Feras.

Migration diary

Day 1, Monday 24  September

Älghult – Copenhagen

I waked up 5.50 am this morning. At 6.30 Annelie a friend and neighbour of mine came with her car to bring me to the buss station.

I got on a earlier buss, at 6.30 and in Växjö I tried to take a earlier train too. But that did not work out. I hade to pay the ticket again as it was a different train company (Öresundståg and not SJ).

30 Euro more but it was worth it as I knew that I would come to Copenhagen in good time before the train to Hamburg.

I am fed up with Swedish  railway safaris. 

Copenhagen  – Federicia

Federicia – Hamburg

Wow, this goes fast. Three hours to Hamburg. In the seventies I worked on STENA Line from Göteborg to Hamburg, a whole night trip every Friday, dancing the evening in a club. Happy days without worries.

Day 2  Tuesday September 25

Today I go to Graz. It is a long trip about 1100 km with stops in Würzburg and  Vienna. I will pass by Nürnberg were my mother worked as a ballerina and survived the American bombings in the Opera  cellars provably drinking wine to alleviate the anxiety and fear of death.

I slept well at Prize hotel in Hamburg  tonight but had a  breakfast in a noicy breakfast saloon.  Disco music out of some 20 loudspeakers is good for dancing but not for a peaceful breakfast.. But they lowered the volume fortunenately after a while so I could eat.

I checked out and took a bus to the central station  without any problems. I alked with a man from Singapore. I where on the central station one hour before departure and could relax in the sun at the platform. I felt well even if preoccupied about the long trip, how I would stand it.

Hamburg-Würzburg ~550 km.

The first part went fast.  I eat up  four  bananas. I am trying the famous Japanese banana diet.  I had problem placing my luggages. No place for for bigger luggages on German ICE.


I took a ICE (Intercity Express) train to  Würzburg 1 class ruhebereich (silence wagon) 12:01.

I hope there will be no delays as I have only a few minutes in Würzburg and 30 minutes in Vienna.

Würzburg-Vienna. 500 km

The train stopped in Nürnberg. My mother dansed here in the Opera (OpernHaus) as a solo ballerina during the war.

mage source:

I wrote about it in 

This is the OpernHaus as seen from the Central Station.

My mother maybe lived in a house like this one:She never like New Years Eve fireworks as she said “They remind me about the bombs. Maybe he lived in a house like the one above.


Vienna- Graz.200 km

15 minutes late to  Vienna. But luckily the train to Graz coming from Prag was also late.  So I finally came to Graz 11.4 5 exhausted. 

It has been a trip with a lot of thinking and discoveries. I learned some more about my mother during this migration tour

2 weeks in Graz Sep 25 – Oct 9

I stayed at my brothers home for two week to get several luggages to be sent wirh Mailboxes to Baercellona Posso di Gotto  where I will get these on a boat to Lipari and my home.

I had the opportunity to met several of my borthers neighboors who are kind and loving people.

I also had two days in my brothers and wifes summer home in Velt an Vörtersee, the Austrian Portonfino. I enjoyed a ni ce bath in the sea that had a nice clean water about 18 Celsius.

With a friend of my brother I went to the San Fransican church Sunday Mass. That was a opportunity of peace and mind restoring.

In between these experiences I scanned two album with photos from my father in my brothers mother.  I hope to find time to shwo some of these in my fathers site 

Migrattion day 15 October 9









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Lunar eclipse_20180727 in Älghult

There were unfortunenately clouds outside my kitchen window in Älghult, Småland, Sweden It took a while until I discovered the eclipsed moon appearing from behind a tall tree.  I succeeded to set up my Canon 50D with tele, Hähnel Giga Giga T Pro remote control. At that time  it was 11:30pm and the eclipse was not total anymore.

 and got this image with the moon left side still in the Earth penumbra:

As I could not get both Mars and the Moon in one view with my tele, I decided to make a photo with  Gimp where I added the moon taken with tele to the photo above. The photo below  that I got, gives an idea how I saw the Moon and Mars from my windows.


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In Sweden you have to wait months to know if you have cancer

I am reading Stefan Einhorns book “The art of being kind” published 2005. I am writing about this book in a separate page under [learning] – [psychology] – [kindness]”

In page 74 I read this:

“It is absurd that you have to wait for months to know if you have a tumor.”

I wrote about the Swedish healthcare  in

What Stefan wrote about in 2009 is maybe still a reality 2018. I think I know why.

health analysis costs money.

In my experience and understanding it is because Sweden wants to shop up nice figures. Sweden saves money, avoiding among others  to do more analysis to know what exactly is going on in your body.

This happened to me 2009 when I had a pneumonia and they did not made a X-ray to check. They presumed I had renal calculi, a less costy diagnos and sent me home with recommendation to not drink water, despite my blood levels gave clear signs of a ongoing  infection. 

The same   happens to me today summer 2018. I got at Alstermo, Uppvidinge county,  healthcare center, twice times, strange liver blood values, Values  that could  depend on a newborn tumor. But they choose to presume I have  liver cirrosis and want a third blood test to preclude alcohol damages. Maybe because I am not a normal cardriving  and shortcut  60+ man, clothing like a old man and  not respecting the Jante law ( Click here to know more about the Jante law ) then you are not normal.) I be an alchololic. Lets proove that.

See my blood levels below. Levels marked with a star are high.

The same doctor at Alstermo health care didnt want to make a KPA blood test. The doctor said she can not make it without checking  with the finger first, despite I have had prostata cancer in my family. The doctor in another town said I may have a prostatitis. They made a KPA test but never sent me the results.

My blood levels could depend on a Liver cancer. But my health status does not support that hypothesis. But something still very small is maybe growing in my liver?  Why not check before it is to late?

Swedish health care helps you maybe  if you have obvious signs of acute sickness, like you are getting blue or are loosing a lot of  blood or you have a cardiac arrest. But not always in such cases neither.  A ambulance was never sent a year ago to a very sick person. They said “Take a cab to the urgency” That person died. I am personally afraid of getting sick here in Sweden, after all my experiences. I wont tell here how I could get 5-6 strokes, the last one september 2014.

Swedish health care remind me about a  cynic money focused society controlled by AI robots, a society that reasons like this:

“1. if you have a liver cancer you will die anyway very soon, so no sense to spend money in expensive exams.
1. a liver operation is very expensive  and we must avoid such a cost
3. Sweden has no use of a retired man that just costs money. Better get rid of him the natural way.”

No wonder “that many health care professionals suffer from stress-related disorders. Stress due to ethical dilemmas is usually referred to as moral distress”  according toSofia Kalvemark . a,*, Anna T. Hoglund , Mats G. Hansson , PeterWesterholm , Bengt Arnetza  (Source:  )

A question – the name of a film.

I saw many years ago a scaring black and white film about a cynical Society where elders were simply killed in a  cinema for 60+. The cinema floor flipped over having all guests falling down in a basement.  If someone knows the name of this film, please share below. Sweden 2018 reminds me  about this film.

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The Gotland youth gives Gotland a new image

At a Midsummer party I got to know about the brown Gotlandish Second World war Hitler support. I am glad that the Young Gotlanders demonstrates against he Swedish neonazis being on the island to make noice at the politcal meeting in Almedalen that start this week.

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A article in

written by Anders R Johansson Mickael Lundgren tells about this dark past and confirm what my drunken friend told me.

Swedish English

Ovanligt många på Gotland

…Nazisterna på Gotland var tvärtom ovanligt många och flera fanns även på de olika förbanden (alla utom det sent startade Lv2). …

Unusually many on Gotland

… On the other hand, the Nazis on Gotland were unusually many, and several were also found on the varius military troops (all but Lv2 that became active late) …

Pepparkakor med hakkors

Bildresultat för pepparkakor

Andra mer bemärkta var ett antal präster (exempelvis Kihlén i Rute, en i När, som bland annat skildrats av Göte Nilsson, och regementspastor Beijer i Visby), flera handlare, ett par posttjänstemän, ett par lärare, en bilmek, en fd frälsningsarmésoldat och SSU-are samt ett par kvarnägare. Flera som kan dokumenteras för stöd blev kyrkvärdar och på sina håll bakade tanterna pepparkakor med hakkors på. 
Utom detta kan även nämnas hur Cementas platschef Arendt de Jounge hösten 1933 använde högerns lokala partistämma till att beklaga sig över att man här i Sverige inte kunde använda samma bryska metoder mot uppnosig arbetarrörelse som samma år hade tillgripits i Tyskland.

 Christmas cakes with swastica drawn upon.

Bildresultat för pepparkakor

Another more notable was a number of priests (eg Kihlén i Rute, one in När, as portrayed by Göte Nilsson, and Beijer Regimentist in Visby), several traders, a couple of post officials, a couple of teachers, a carmek, a former Salvation Army soldier and SSUs (ssu party) and a couple of moorers. Several that can be documented for nazisupport became church hosts and in their backs, the women baked gingerbread cookies with Swasticas. Besides this, mention is also made of how Cementa’s site manager Arendt de Jounge, in the autumn of 1933, used the right party’s local party meeting to regret that here in Sweden we could not use the same brutal methods against insane workers’ movement that had been used in Germany in the same year.

Gotlandsbolagets chef gav rabatt åt nazister

CG Ekman var med i Riksföreningen Sverige-Tyskland samt gav rabatt till de “trekvartsbruna” SNU, då de hade läger vid Toftabaden. Vidare fanns en kommunalordförande i Dalhem, och att en nazist senare blev folkpartistisk fullmäktigeledamot i Slite.

Gotland Company Head gave discounts to nazists

CG Ekman was a member of the Swedish Association Swedish-Germany and gave a discount to the “three-quarter” SNU, when they camped at Toftabaden. There was also a municipal chairman in Dalhem, and a Nazi member later became a parliamentary parliamentary member of Slite.


 “livlina” från Baltikum

Men viktigare är nog att den “livlina” som efter kriget organiserades från Baltikum och västerut bland annat hade stöd av skollärare Nilsson i Hangvar och PH Lovén på Hästnäs. 
Om detta har undertecknade skrivit flera gånger förut (var för sig och gemensamt). 

“lifeline” from the Baltics

But more importantly, the “lifeline”, organized after the war from the Baltic and West, was supported by school teacher Nilsson in Hangvar and PH Lovén at Hästnäs. If this has the signature written several times before (separately and in common). 



Parts translated to English by me.

The lifeline history is maybe a explanation for the Russians sending a tortedo from a submarine to sink the  the Swedish Hansa killing 80+ people. Another rumor on Gotland.

I am working on a article about Hansa. 


Swedish healthcare – The Swedish illusion.



When you read the info in

“a system that ensures everyone equal access to health care services. ”

it sounds like Sweden is  Heaven.

I have compeletely different experiences. The reality is not like paint it.


I had deep cough two years ago in Italy. They made a X ray immediately and could after 2 hours exclude pneumonia.


I got pneumonia 8 years ago here in Sweden. I waited from 8 pm until 3 am the next day in a corridor. A doctor came and said “Let say you have renal calculi” He sent me home with the recommendation to not drink.

The evening after, again feeling horrible at the hospital waiting another 9 hour. A doctor from Iran came at 2 am and talking with me, he understood I did not have kidney problems. He immediately sent me to make a X-ray where they discovered I had the lungs full of water.

90 years old waiting eleven hours in the acute corridor -she died there.

Translated from:

The Inspectorate for Health and Care (Ivo) criticizes Skåne University Hospital (SUS) in Lund after a 90-year-old man died when he sought care at the emergency room after a fall in 2016.

The healthcare staff believed that the man also suffered from pneumonia and decision was taken to move to the care department. But there was no place, and instead he remained in the corridor of the acute for eleven hours.

He had neither food nor drink nor any other care. He was moved to the central hospital in Kristianstad, where he died the day after the cardiac arrest.

A year ago someone called 112.  They said @Talek a cab to the hospital.” A sicki human being  died because of that.



e have elections here in Sweden and one of the parties goes out sying that the public health care  Responsibility  must not be devolved to the county councils and municipal governments.

But that would probably not change much.



Swedish cancer health care

The Swedish health care “a system that ensures everyone equal access to health care services. ” They doesn say, “while keeping the budget plan”

“Months to know if you have cancer”

The Swedish oncologist Stefan Einhorn wrote in his book  “The art of being kind” 10 years ago that it is not caring  that people have to wait months to know if they have cancer.  I wonder if that is different today. I am waiting more than a month to make a MRT for the doctors to be able to exclude cancer.  A month is a long time when you have a growing cancer especcially in the well mourished liver.

A cancer cell can in  a month develope and spread huge amounts of daughter cells  ( metastasis ) that makes it almost impossible fror you to fight for your life.

Today at the news, the issue was raised in the news /Rapport 19.30). I took this screen shot:


With blood cancer you get help within 6 days in 73% of the cases.

Only 50% with brain cancer got help in time, that is within 50 days. 
cancer in but for severe prostata cancer only 3.9% got good help but within 60 days. 

But this statistics talks only about those who have got the cancer diagnos.  Nothing is said how long time it took for these patients to get the diagnos.

I wonder how are the possibility to save a human with brain cancer 50 days after they discovered it?

How many of these patients got rid of their cancer?


Getting older and dying in Sweden

I am scared about getting older in Sweden.  If you are unable to leave the bed they let you lay there until you get bedsores.  We took our mother in law, back home and after a few weeks she was able to walk again. 

In Sweden you can die and rotten slowly in your apartment before they discover you. When my mother was sick in Italy they installed a microphone and loudspeaker in her house so they could talk with her and ask how she was doing. If she didnt answer they immediately came to visit her.




More people will die or suffer in Sweden for the hospitals to keep their budget and the government to show up nice $ figures.

Difference between private and public care

A dentist,  friend of mine eplained this:

When you look for help at a private hospital the hospital welcomes you with open arms as they get money from the State for every human they take care of.

That is not the case for the  public health care .The public care has to stick to their yearly budget. All patients have to share a piece of the yearly cake.  So If you look for help at the public health care, the doctor has to leave other patients. To not spend money and time they find easy solutions.

Public healthcare budget thinking

A  public healthcare  doctor may because of lack of shared time and resources, tend to think :

“We can not spend 300 Euro  for a MRT  if there is nothing serious”

or  being stressed, to get rid of you, they may take the risc saying:  “There is probably nothing serious with you.  Go home.” or “take a rest and talk with you psycologist” 

so he can leave you and take care of the other patience.

This happened to me.

Swedish healthcare doesnt think:

“We cannot risc to loose another human life”

Budget is sacred, not human life.

This reminds me about my military service in a rescuing platoon. The officer instructed us “If you are in a war zone, If someone looks horrible think that he/she will probably die anyway. Lave him and take care of others.”

A Swedish public healthcare doctor could  think in a similar way:

“Spending money on a dying man
is vasted money”

It is of course not morally unacceptable to thin like that  but this is the way the Swedish health care is programmed.

Do not think Sweden is a paradise to get old in. Think before you leave your country for Sweden.

I am in Sweden now as I can not stand the heat in Italy.

But I will emigrate to Italy as soon as possible and do my best to survive the heat there. 

Does the Swedish health care has the cynic policy I started this post with?

“Spending money on a dying man is vasted money”

Girl soccer World Championship requested

Växjö DFF photo taken from 

I do not like Soccer where men use violence to weaken their adversaries. Look at this soccer game I saw in TV, where The Växjö girl team wins over Kristiansstad. More women soccer intelligent no violence games! A World Championship girl soccer would be nice to see.

I uploaded this video from into one of my Youtube channels as WordPress does not allow videos larger than 1MB.


The law of Jante



I wrote this post after having read  an article in SVD at

I had to update it with a new conclusion after having read an Australian blog post about the high Italian self-esteem.

I think the SVD (Svenska Dagbladet) article tells about an important part of the Swedish and Scandinavian sociocultural history and culture of today, known in Sweden as “Jantelagen”, the law of Jante. In Norway, they call it “Janteloven”

It may also make you understand Swedes better and that exaggerated self-esteem is maybe not the best neither. 



History of the law

Until 1900 in poor Swedish, maybe even Scandinavian, villages, all had to follow this law.  A person who did not follow this law broke the social balance in the village. I would say that this law still is respected today among some Swedes even in workplaces. 

The law was formulated 1933 by the Norwegian writer Aksel Sandemose in his fiction ”En flykting korsar sitt spår”. Sandemose grew up in the Danish village Nykøbing Mors. Aksel Sandemose used this village as a model for his village Jante in his book.

The Swedish article writes this about the story:

The principle as such is ancient. Jantelagen pays homage to a type of conformity and “do not stand out” mentality that was very common in the old society, both in cities and in the countryside. It was rooted in the social need for cohesion at a time when poverty was always threatening around the corner, in the belief in a limited amount of happiness that must be distributed fairly and in the experience of the importance of one’s own person and family. The man or woman who stood out from the crowd, who rose, threatened the balance, and became a problem.

“That being said, the law of the rooster as such, that is, the principle under this designation is a modern invention. The law was formulated by Aksel Sandemose in the novel “A refugee crosses his trail” (1933). The Norwegian Sandemose grew up in Danish Nykøbing Mors, which was a model for the book’s fictional city Jante. Sandemose himself believed that the city of growth only stood for Jante’s external features, while the mentality embodied in the Jante law is rather universal.”
Read more in the  article in SVD at



Aksel Sandemose formulates the law like this:

Nr Translated Swedish version
1 You should not believe you are something. Du skall inte tro att du är något.
2 You should not believe you are as good as we are. Du skall inte tro att du är lika god som vi.
3 You should not believe you are more intelligent than us. Du skall inte tro att du är klokare än vi.
4 You should not think that you are better than us. Du skall inte inbilla dig att du är bättre än vi.
 5 You should not think that you know more than us. Du skall inte tro att du vet mer än vi.
 6 You should not think that you have more value than us. Du skall inte tro att du är förmer än vi.
 7 You should not believe that you are good at something. Du skall inte tro att du duger till något.
 8 You should not laugh at us. Du skall inte skratta åt oss.
9 You should not believe anyone cares about you. Du skall inte tro att någon bryr sig om dig.
10  You should not believe you can teach us anything. Du skall inte tro att du kan lära oss något.
 11 The eleventh law, “the punishment law” says:

Do you not think we know about you?

Till detta kommer ett elfte bud, ”Jantelagens strafflag”:

Tror du inte att vi vet något om dig?”


This “law of Jante ” reminds me about 
“no prophet is accepted in his hometown”  ( Luke 4:24

Swedes were during the 19th century severely educated by Protestant priests who came to the villages to interrogate the villagers about the words in the Bible, Luther’s small catechism, and other reading abilities.  Kids were interrogated at school with questions like “Who was the first man?” were the right answer had to be “Adam!” if you didn’t want to be punished with the stick. 


The law of Jante today

US native Steven Karwoski wrote this in ” How I tackled Sweden’s Law of Jante”
“Equality remains a cornerstone of Swedish culture.  This ‘we’re all the same’ mentality comes from the Scandinavian concept of Jantelagen or The Law of Jante, the cultural compass that celebrates ‘everyman’, discourages individual success, and sets average as the goal.  It manifests itself in the culture not only with the ‘we are all equal’ ethos but even more so a  ‘don’t think you are better than anyone, ever’ mindset.”
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here is one of the several youtube’s about the law of Jante 

I like this comment to her video:

“What’s funny is that the same Swedes that judge you will turn into social butterflies as soon as they arrive in Thailand or any country that has a warm culture.”

I recommend also this well made  Youtube about the law of Jante described as part of Norwegian Culture. The author is a Norwegian girl who teaches  Norwegian in her channel for English speaking visitors.

Swedes in Austria and Spain.

Swedes are also known as very problematic and even feared in the Austrian ski site and in Spain for the drinking behavior when they get “free” and inhibited.

Maybe similar social rules are found in your country? 


two books about Sweden

This book about Sweden from 2008 tells about the law of Jante. (HINT. click on the image to view a Google review

You may read about the Swedish History  in this older book now available in the Internet Archive (HINT. click on the image to view a Google review) 




Reading the Australian Caitlyn Cooks post about Italian self-esteem in her blog at, I  understood that when I came back to Sweden 19 years old, I brought with me some Italian self-esteem.

I had to adapt to the law of Jante in Sweden as I was reminded about my “exaggerated” self-esteem. Fiat had to adapt too. A big Fiat car announcement had this meaning under the photo under the new Fiat car image: “Buy Italian, drive like a Swede.” When I had a friend coming with me she sat behind as she didn’t rely on my driving. I had an Italian driver’s license. And comment on my telling about my project like “Du gillar att skryta” that is “You like to brag”

I wonder if the Italian self-esteem is still the same after the bad publicity outside Italy. I once heard a taxi driver in Neaple say “If Neaple were governed by Swedes we would have a fantastic city.

i see however some hidden self-esteem anyway here in Italy as blame others for the malfunctioning public services. Many Italians use to accuse all others to be idiots and corrupted egoists, especially politicians they themselves have voted on and those who work in the government or Municipality.