www.beyondtoscano.com/entertainment/italian-punctuality-reliably-unreliable-217/ writes this in the post “Italian punctuality: reliably unreliable”:
“Italian punctuality can at times feel like an oxymoron, even though to many Italians, unpunctuality is a constant annoyance.
In saying ‘sometime around’ many Italians are secretly implying a time you’re expected to arrive (9pm) while giving themselves a 15 window of time to arrive. with the Italian tendency to delay or push back deadlines, it could be later still. This habit seems more prevalent the further south in Italy you go, … “
www.italymagazine.com/forums/general-chat-about-italy/11522-italians-and-punctuality.html is harder in its critics, writing
“Those of you who, like me, know a number of Italians, have probably realised that most have little or NO concept of time and punctuality,”
The Italymagazine editor continues with:
“But this seems to be an endemic part of the Italian make up. They never keep to time in their personal lives.”
I have done business with Italians since 1995. I agree with italymagazine especcially here in Sicily. I have always thought the Sicilians are slower less willing to stress because of the heat. I may be wrong.
I myself tend instead to come to meetings before time to avoid the stress and prevent unexpected events that may delay me. I love walking slowly the last meters to destination especially with the Sicilian Summer heat. And I do not want others to loose their precious time. As John in the video I share below
“Time is the most important human resource”. We dont live 400 years like Abraham. Don’t we?
If i visit my doctor I am prepared for a waiting session as I know that a patients illness before me may require more time than expected by the doctor. I have experience of very long waiting times in Swedish hospitals. So, when I visit a doctor I plan for a longer wait with a newspaper or spending the time planning the rest of my day or week or ejoying a talk with other patients.
I am trying to find a solution for unexpected waiting time. Shall I become a time robber coming late too? But as .beyondtoscano.com writes, Italians expect others to be punctual.
I like to listen to this Youtubeas he is making a little bit fun about himself.
I dont find any site telling about lack of punctuality and time stealing. But I find a lot of sites telling about time robbers. The best slide i found was this:
But as you can see this table just list factors that steal time from you. But time robbers may be stealing your time because these factors steal time from them.
I presume that two factors are the main contributors of Italian lack of punctuality:
- poor planning
- Phone calls and Inability to say “no”
- Taking on to much and ineffective or lacking of delegation
1. I have noted that very few Italian may use a calendar, paperback nor digital. I have not met anyone using this technique.
2, When I had a meeting, if someone else called, I have never heard “Sorry I have a meeting now. can I call you back when I am ready?”
only once in my Italian experience, I heard “Sorry for being late”
How to stop being late
Maybe this video gives you a few hints
For me the most valuable tips are:
- Build margin in the calendar
- Cut off things
- Change your attitude having “no” as your defaults answer
- Plan to be early and plan something enjoyable to do while you wait.
- Make deadlines non-negotiable
- Know you personality type.
Psychologist Dr. Linda Sapadin identified four chronically late personality types:
- perfectionists should be optimalist instead
- dreamers are often overoptimistic with time.
- crisis makers should practice adrenalin sports instead.
- Defiers who hates being told what to do should instead rebel against social norms that are actually harmful
- Sourcve;: www.realmenrealstyle.com/be-more-punctual/
Perhaps the solution is the Swedish “akademisk kvart” (“Academic quarter” German “Akademisches Viertel”, Italian: “Quarto d’ora accademico”
I have found a Italian site about “Quarto d’ora accademico” in italianosemplicemente.com/2016/11/07/il-quarto-dora-accademico che tra l’altro dice degli italiani “non siamo in generale rigidi nel rispetto delle regole, almeno nelle regole dell’orario e della puntualità. Questa mancanza di capacità di stare alle regole, di stare nel “recinto” delle regole, se da una parte è una mancanza di rispetto verso chi invece le regole le rispetta, dall’altra ci dà probabilmente la capacità di stare al di fuori della logica comune, e questo porta l’italiano ad una maggiore creatività, una maggiore inventiva, una maggiore capacità di inventare e di lavorare con la fantasia. Questa ovviamente può essere una delle possibili interpretazioni, una delle tante.”
I reallt wonder if this time culture helps the Italians to become more creative “porta l’italiano ad una maggiore creatività“. Creativity depends on your time of relax. The Italian siesta and relax is I think a better space for creativity.
How to deal with the Italian lack of Punctuality
the academic quarter was not permitted in compulsory school in Sweden. But this academic culture is maybe a solution. Shall I plan with coming sometime within 15 minutes? I don’t have a answer yet, how to deal with this issue. I see however no reason to come before as this would make me still more irritated if the others come late.
or like John says in his youtube above “I try to be less early”
I like the idea www.realmenrealstyle.com/be-more-punctual/ sugggests:
“Plan to be early and plan something enjoyable to do while you wait.”
so If someone comes late I can go and take a cup of granita?