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Sell what you own and give the money to the poor

From the liturgy of the roman catholic of Sunday October 14, ( Mark 10:17-30), we read
“man ran up, knelt before him and put this question to him, ‘Good master, what must I do to inherit eternal life?’
The man who was avery rich, said he followed the Mosaic rules Jesus reminded about. 
Jesus looked steadily at him and he was filled with love for him, and he said, ‘You need to do one thing more. Go and sell what you own and give the money to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me.’ 
But his face fell at these words and he went away sad, for he was a man of great wealth.

23 Jesus looked round and said to his disciples, ‘How hard it is for those who have riches to enter the kingdom of God!”

What does really Jesus meants with this

Did he say that I have to sell my house and garden my mother gave me after so much sacrifice and begin to live on the road spreading the message of God?  Did he meant I should leave nothing to my childrens the day I die and start my sleep?

If I sell my home I wtill have have to sleep  in a test or cave ,, much  like Diogenes. That would be hard as I am not a young man anymore and after my strokes, I am sensible to stress needing good sleep to work.

Jesus with the metaphore of the making good value of money in …

said to me I have to be careful with my health and do my best to live as long as possible.

It is really not easy to follow this invitation of Jesus. 

Many poor  people today, begging for money on the streets , are abused by criminals who used them and take the money they collect. This happens in Sweden and mauybe also in many other countries.

I dont want to give my money to criminals nor do I want to give  money to the church that already is so wealthy.

I try to make effective donations as I wrote in a previous article.

UNHCR Effective altruism and collaboration

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introduction

I have previously written about the art of being “kind”

As  Stefan said: “Doing a good thing gives the same pleasure as a drug. You can stop taking drug and start making good things and get the same good feeling.”

This reminds me about what Martin Seligman said:  “meaning comes from belonging to and serving something beyond yourself and from developing the best within you.”  I wrote about  this in :  meaning-of-life/#conclusions )

Kindness, purpose are related to  cooperation

Cooperation can be done at local level in your work, your neighborhood. But that can also be practiced cooperation on a global level by e.g. contributing to organizations that you know use your money effectively.

Beth Barnes ) says in the Ted I share below: “And all the evidence suggests that giving money to charity makes you happier than spending it on yourself.” 

 

Our brains changes when you train altruism. It shows without ambiguity that there is a structural and functional change in the brain when you train the altruistic love.

 (source:   www.youtube.com  )

 

I were for long time contributing to Medecins sans frontieres, Greenpeace and UNHCR. I felt well doing this. It was not much money I gave but a Swedish wisdom says

“Många bäckar små blir till en stor å”

Translated to English that reads:

Many small streams become a big river

a sentence that is used in www.sustainable-communities.eu in a completely  different context.

I  listened in youtube  to a American millionaires story. he did not feel happy being a millionaire. He choosed to become a altruist donating money.

I don’t remember his name.  After this Yotube, I got information about a  two  nice Ted videos: 

  1. in the first video we listen to Mathieu Ricard, a French Buddhist who  describes a buddhistic view
    • about the society we live in today, 
    • about the reason why we should become more altruistic
    •  about altruism in nature,
    • about the human altruistic nature,
    • and  how we can train altruism at school with meditation.
  2. 2. My second Ted is about”effective altruism”. where Beth Barnes describes and share
    • her view about altruism 
    • how to become more effective in our altruism.
    • and what effective altruism can lead to.

Index

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Altruism

Here is Mathieu Ricards Ted:

There are two types of altruism.

  1. One  is about helping someone in you proximity, at work, in your neighborhood or in your village/town
  2. the other is about sharing your wealth, donating money. 

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Effective altruism – sharing wealth.

here is Beth Barnes about effective altruism  donating money:

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2.Effective altruism – helping your next

On a personal level you also have to think about effective altruism. You must avoid empathic distress, balancing altruism and the care of yourself.
 
I myself became a burn out and most probably because of empathic distress I got several strokes. I had to leave my job as a teacher a job I loved. 
 

“The balancing act of being altruistic and not falling into empathic distress requires concentration, awareness, and attention to our intentions and motivations around these acts. We must continue to question the benefit or harm we may be causing ourselves and the person we are serving.

It may be hard to imagine how a good intention, and seemingly “selfless” act can become unhealthy or even toxic. Which is why it’s vital for us to be mindfully altruistic—the art of being aware of ourselves and others while serving them.” ( Source:  www.elephantjournal.com  )

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Conclusions

I will continue to donate 30€ monthly to UNHCR, while being open for other alternatives like the ones Beth Barnes suggests. Donating money doesnt normally harm if you do it wisely together with you family and relatives.  At least not when it is not more than12 USD a month like with UNHCR. I get news from  UNHCR now and then like the info about this video with Italian text. I befcame a supporter at the airport of Catania.

l will  however be careful not harming myself while helping my next. This raises a ethical dilemma something i wrote about in http://www.kinberg.net/wordpress/stellan/kindness/#ethics

Like with the man who saved a boy on the railway in Mathieu Ricards Ted.

Will I risc my life to save anothers? For a child i would maybe do that, without thinking about the consequences. But in other cases maybe not. I have suffered enough after helping at school. with my mutliple strokes and the resulting mental fatigue.

.I am right now trying to help  a good friend who suffer. But I am careful with the time I am spending. I call him when I feel reloaded.

I have thought it would be nice to become a UNHCR volunteer somewhere in the world but I have difficulties now with heat, stress and  surprises. I  do my best donating some of my retirement money.

 

 

 

 

 

In Sweden you have to wait months to know if you have cancer

I am reading Stefan Einhorns book “The art of being kind” published 2005. I am writing about this book in a separate page under [learning] – [psychology] – [kindness]”

In page 74 I read this:

“It is absurd that you have to wait for months to know if you have a tumor.”

I wrote about the Swedish healthcare  in http://www.kinberg.net/wordpress/stellan/2018/06/18/swedish-health-care/

What Stefan wrote about in 2009 is maybe still a reality 2018. I think I know why.

health analysis costs money.

In my experience and understanding it is because Sweden wants to shop up nice figures. Sweden saves money, avoiding among others  to do more analysis to know what exactly is going on in your body.

This happened to me 2009 when I had a pneumonia and they did not made a X-ray to check. They presumed I had renal calculi, a less costy diagnos and sent me home with recommendation to not drink water, despite my blood levels gave clear signs of a ongoing  infection. 

The same   happens to me today summer 2018. I got at Alstermo, Uppvidinge county,  healthcare center, twice times, strange liver blood values, Values  that could  depend on a newborn tumor. But they choose to presume I have  liver cirrosis and want a third blood test to preclude alcohol damages. Maybe because I am not a normal cardriving  and shortcut  60+ man, clothing like a old man and  not respecting the Jante law ( Click here to know more about the Jante law ) then you are not normal.) I be an alchololic. Lets proove that.

See my blood levels below. Levels marked with a star are high.

The same doctor at Alstermo health care didnt want to make a KPA blood test. The doctor said she can not make it without checking  with the finger first, despite I have had prostata cancer in my family. The doctor in another town said I may have a prostatitis. They made a KPA test but never sent me the results.

My blood levels could depend on a Liver cancer. But my health status does not support that hypothesis. But something still very small is maybe growing in my liver?  Why not check before it is to late?

Swedish health care helps you maybe  if you have obvious signs of acute sickness, like you are getting blue or are loosing a lot of  blood or you have a cardiac arrest. But not always in such cases neither.  A ambulance was never sent a year ago to a very sick person. They said “Take a cab to the urgency” That person died. I am personally afraid of getting sick here in Sweden, after all my experiences. I wont tell here how I could get 5-6 strokes, the last one september 2014.

Swedish health care remind me about a  cynic money focused society controlled by AI robots, a society that reasons like this:

“1. if you have a liver cancer you will die anyway very soon, so no sense to spend money in expensive exams.
1. a liver operation is very expensive  and we must avoid such a cost
3. Sweden has no use of a retired man that just costs money. Better get rid of him the natural way.”

No wonder “that many health care professionals suffer from stress-related disorders. Stress due to ethical dilemmas is usually referred to as moral distress”  according toSofia Kalvemark . a,*, Anna T. Hoglund , Mats G. Hansson , PeterWesterholm , Bengt Arnetza  (Source: http://www.jipts.com/_Uploads/dbsAttachedFiles/Livingwith.pdf  )

A question – the name of a film.

I saw many years ago a scaring black and white film about a cynical Society where elders were simply killed in a  cinema for 60+. The cinema floor flipped over having all guests falling down in a basement.  If someone knows the name of this film, please share below. Sweden 2018 reminds me  about this film.


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