I have previously written about the art of being “kind”
As Stefan said: “Doing a good thing gives the same pleasure as a drug. You can stop taking drug and start making good things and get the same good feeling.”
This reminds me about what Martin Seligman said: “meaning comes from belonging to and serving something beyond yourself and from developing the best within you.” I wrote about this in : meaning-of-life/#conclusions )
Kindness, purpose are related to cooperation
Cooperation can be done at local level in your work, your neighborhood. But that can also be practiced cooperation on a global level by e.g. contributing to organizations that you know use your money effectively.
Our brains changes when you train altruism. It shows without ambiguity that there is a structural and functional change in the brain when you train the altruistic love.
(source: www.youtube.com )
“Många bäckar små blir till en stor å”
Translated to English that reads:
Many small streams become a big river
a sentence that is used in www.sustainable-communities.eu in a completely different context.
I listened in youtube to a American millionaires story. he did not feel happy being a millionaire. He choosed to become a altruist donating money.
I don’t remember his name. After this Yotube, I got information about a two nice Ted videos:
- in the first video we listen to Mathieu Ricard, a French Buddhist who describes a buddhistic view
- about the society we live in today,
- about the reason why we should become more altruistic
- about altruism in nature,
- about the human altruistic nature,
- and how we can train altruism at school with meditation.
- 2. My second Ted is about”effective altruism”. where Beth Barnes describes and share
- her view about altruism
- how to become more effective in our altruism.
- and what effective altruism can lead to.
Effective altruism – sharing wealth.
- Effective altruism – helping your next
Here is Mathieu Ricards Ted:
There are two types of altruism.
- One is about helping someone in you proximity, at work, in your neighborhood or in your village/town
- the other is about sharing your wealth, donating money.
Effective altruism – sharing wealth.
here is Beth Barnes about effective altruism donating money:
2.Effective altruism – helping your next
“The balancing act of being altruistic and not falling into empathic distress requires concentration, awareness, and attention to our intentions and motivations around these acts. We must continue to question the benefit or harm we may be causing ourselves and the person we are serving.
It may be hard to imagine how a good intention, and seemingly “selfless” act can become unhealthy or even toxic. Which is why it’s vital for us to be mindfully altruistic—the art of being aware of ourselves and others while serving them.” ( Source: www.elephantjournal.com )
I will continue to donate 30€ monthly to UNHCR, while being open for other alternatives like the ones Beth Barnes suggests. Donating money doesnt normally harm if you do it wisely together with you family and relatives. At least not when it is not more than12 USD a month like with UNHCR. I get news from UNHCR now and then like the info about this video with Italian text. I befcame a supporter at the airport of Catania.
l will however be careful not harming myself while helping my next. This raises a ethical dilemma something i wrote about in http://www.kinberg.net/wordpress/stellan/kindness/#ethics.
Like with the man who saved a boy on the railway in Mathieu Ricards Ted.
Will I risc my life to save anothers? For a child i would maybe do that, without thinking about the consequences. But in other cases maybe not. I have suffered enough after helping at school. with my mutliple strokes and the resulting mental fatigue.
.I am right now trying to help a good friend who suffer. But I am careful with the time I am spending. I call him when I feel reloaded.
I have thought it would be nice to become a UNHCR volunteer somewhere in the world but I have difficulties now with heat, stress and surprises. I do my best donating some of my retirement money.